I SEE NO REASON TO BE A JEALOUS PARTNER. (2019 EDITION).

There’s no reason to be a jealous partner if you’re the one snooping through your partner’s privacy and relevant stuffs. Several actions can help you cope and to be more vibrant in relational world. Many partners see’s many action to be jealous, and over unnecessary thing that will create confusion and misunderstanding for both.

Avoid situations that are likely to arouse false suspicions. The more they would find evidence to worry about, leading to even more spying, and creating a vicious cycle of increased monitoring and jealousy

Work on yourself. Work on building your confidence in yourself and your relationship. Communicate with your partner. If you are experiencing jealousy, talk about it with your partner but the way you talk is key, If you express anger or hurl accusations at your partner, that’s not going to help. You must be direct, but not hostile. Calmly explain your feelings and discuss how to find a solution. This will enable you to be more satisfied and prevent your partner from being confused by your jealous behaviour. These communication points are most likely to bring out positive responses in your partner.

Sometimes jealousy is justified, If your partner has had an affair and has betrayed your trust, for example, that is a serious issue. If you are jealous because you’re involved with someone who doesn’t seek monogamy, while you do, then your jealous feelings may be a good reason to leave the relationship and seek someone whose relationship goals are more compatible with yours. But when you get jealous over stupid things, you’re not showing love, you’re revealing your own insecurities. You have to observed and count what your partner dislike and also like. There’s more room for improvement and one needs to exercise patient even if you see your partner is chatting or talking to someone. Many relationship are falling apart due to such insecurities and it create mistrust leading to breakup. I don’t see any reason to be jealous, and over your partner you loved and admired most. it’s sensational. Guys has a problem of these issues regardless to being pushy or rushed to conclude on matters that are not relevant.

When you love your partner and trust him or her you both are bound to be happy and have prosperous in your relationship. Is a good way to learn how to avoid jealousy in your relationship. Be a good partner and make the relationship work leading to long lasting marriage. Blessings

@Official_Pope 1

Blessings


Larbi Pope Williams.

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THE FUTURE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP 

1. He or she references the future, with you included and does so often! It’s not if we do this or that, it becomes when we do this or that. Whether he or she is planning a nice moment with you in nearby future, home, or attending a friend’s wedding next year, it is obvious that you are on his or her mind. He or she is no longer thinking about his single hood but what it will be like as a permanent couple. He has communicated in both words and behaviours that you have a future together.

2. He or she asks your opinion on important life decisions. Things are no longer viewed as only impacting him or her alone. If he or she is offered something,probably he or she seeks out your input or opinion. It becomes a discussion and both weighed it on a scale.

3. You are always welcome at family gatherings and he or she attends most of yours as well. His or hers family accepts you and yours accept too. It seems like a natural fit. It’s a bonus if his or her mother always asks if you’re coming visit and is disappointed if you aren’t.

4. He is still around even though you have hit a few rough patches. Maybe you lost your job, experienced an extended illness or perhaps misfortune happen. He or she was right there with emotional, physiological etc support. He or she maybe even offered financial support, but it made you feel secure and happy. Or perhaps you had a nasty episode of when feeling lonely and unsecured

5. He or she demonstrates that he believes in marriage and is not fearful of making such a life long commitment. It’s a really optimistic sign if he has a positive altitude towards intimacy and commitment. He is thoughtful about marriage, won’t jump in or rush, but at the same time is more than willing to take the risk on love if it feels right.

6. You have a lot in common. You might have a similar sense of humour or a particular habit that you both do. It seems as if you both really get each other.

7. Parent’s responsibilities to their their wards relationship

Moral lessons

You do want to be patient. Seeing all or some of these signs should help you know deep down that this guy or lady isn’t going anywhere.There’s no reason to take the romance out of the process by being pushy or always starting up conversations about your future.

Alternatively, if you have been patient and you either do not see these signs or worse, he or she has been inconsistent in his behaviour, it is time to have a sit-down talk. You will have to take a risk about expressing your feeling and check in with his. You may end up heartbroken. However, you do not want to invest any more time and energy into a relationship that is not headed for marriage if that is your goal.

Blessings….

@Official_Pope 1


THE FUTURE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP.

1. He or she references the future, with you included and does so often! It’s not if we do this or that, it becomes when we do this or that. Whether he or she is planning a nice moment with you in nearby future, home, or attending a friend’s wedding next year, it is obvious that you are on his or her mind. He or she is no longer thinking about his single hood but what it will be like as a permanent couple. He has communicated in both words and behaviours that you have a future together.

2. He or she asks your opinion on important life decisions. Things are no longer viewed as only impacting him or her alone. If he or she is offered something,probably he or she seeks out your input or opinion. It becomes a discussion and both weighed it on a scale.

3. You are always welcome at family gatherings and he or she attends most of yours as well. His or hers family accepts you and yours accept too. It seems like a natural fit. It’s a bonus if his or her mother always asks if you’re coming visit and is disappointed if you aren’t.

4. He is still around even though you have hit a few rough patches. Maybe you lost your job, experienced an extended illness or perhaps misfortune happen. He or she was right there with emotional, physiological etc support. He or she maybe even offered financial support, but it made you feel secure and happy. Or perhaps you had a nasty episode of when feeling lonely and unsecured

5. He or she demonstrates that he believes in marriage and is not fearful of making life-long Commitment. It’s a really optimistic sign if he has a positive attitude towards intimacy and commitment. He is thoughtful about marriage, won’t jump in or rush, but at the same time is more than willing to take the risk on love if it feels right.

6. You have a lot in common. You might have a similar sense of humour or a particular habit that you both do. It seems as if you both really get each other.

7. Parent’s responsibilities to their their wards relationship

Moral lessons

You do want to be patient. Seeing all or some of these signs should help you know deep down that this guy or lady isn’t going anywhere.There’s no reason to take the romance out of the process by being pushy or always starting up conversations about your future.

Alternatively, if you have been patient and you either do not see these signs or worse, he or she has been inconsistent in his behaviour, it is time to have a sit-down talk. You will have to take a risk about expressing your feelings and check in with his. You may end up heartbroken. However, you do not want to invest any more time and energy into a relationship that is not headed for marriage if that is your goal.

Blessings….

@Official_Pope 1

“OBEYE AMA WO” SONG LYRICS ( BY DEACON YAW BOATENG BOAFO)

Obeye ama WO oo
Obeka ama WO oo
Onyame tease yi
nya gyedi se obeye.

(2*)chorus
Solo:obekasa wc wamanee no mu,
obekasa wawaree no mu,
Obekasa wakwantusem mu,ama wahunu se wcye Onyame.Onyame beye ooo odofoc eii,

Onyame bekasa,cbekasa wc wadwumasem mu,
(ama wahunu se oye Onyame,)

2*,oye Onyame a onsesa da nti no,obeye ade nyinaa foforo wae!,
Onyame beye ooo odofo ei,Onyame (bekasa)2*wawaresem mu,(ama wahunu se oye Onyame)2*orebeye ade foforo oo,eye den ara a ebepue wai!

Back to chorus:obeye ama wo oo….

Solo 2:
(Won a otwen Awurade anim no,onya ahocden foforo, odetu se anomaa koree3 nanso oremmer3 da wai)

2*Onyame beye ooo odofo ei,Onyame bekasa,cbekasa wc woawaresem mu, (ama wahunu se oye Onyame)2*oye Onyame a cnsesa da nti no,obeye ade nyinaa foforo wai! Onyame beye ooo odofo ei,Onyame bekasa,obekasa wo wadwumasem mu,(ama wahunu se oye Onyame)

2*orebeye ade foforo oo ,eyeden ara a ebepue wai!

Chorus obeye ama wo oo obeka ama wo oo Onyame tease yi nya gyedi se obeye. till end🤝

By LARBI POPE WILLIAMS

WHY WE GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP PART 2 (OFFICIAL_POPE 1)

In part one (1) of how we go into relationship, we talk more on basic principles and values. We will now emphasized more on the love we show or how individual being Feels when with his or her partner. In this edition two, we will talk more and get to know how important or the usefulness in relational world. It follows by;

Two people may decide to form a relationship because of common interests. They may be studying the same subject or pursuing the same goals in life. They may give each other mental stimulation and satisfaction. They may have similar professional goals and work together, helping and complimenting each other. This could be in anything from their own perspective of mind and thought.

A primary force in bringing people together in marriage is the subconscious or conscious desire to create and care for children. Through children we manifest our continuation. We offer to society human potential for the future. We also frequently seek to gain self affirmation through their achievements. In some cases, we may also hope they will support and protect us when age makes us less capable.

We are also attracted to someone because he or she embodies qualities which we admire or which supplement our personality. If we are overly emotional, we might be attracted to a person who is more subdued and rational. If the opposite, we might be attracted to a person who freely expresses his or her emotions.

Another factor which some might feel has played a role in their coming together is that of fate or destiny. We may feel that we were supposed to be together. We feel Eros feelings of infatuation or of being in love. These strong feelings create in us a need to be with the other and to unite our lives. Thanks for reading.

By Larbi Pope Williams

WHY WE GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP PART 1 (OFFICIAL_POPE 1)

In order to create conscious love relationships, you need to understand the motives and needs which now cause us to form relationships.

We enter into relationships for the same reason we do everything else in our lives: because we are motivated by our needs. We seek out others in order to fulfill our unfulfilled needs. Alone we feel empty. We hope to complete ourselves through our relationships.

We now wants to discuss the importance of entering into a relational world.

1. One of our most basic needs is to feel secure. We feel more secure and safe when we are with someone. I have heard people who fear being alone at night in a remote house admit that they feel safer even if there is an infant with them. Obviously, this infant will not protect them from any danger. We can see how important it is for us to feel that we are with someone else.
For most of us, it is not sufficient that a person is with us now. In order to feel secure, we want to know that he or she will be with us forever. This is one of the reasons we give so much importance to exclusivity in our relationships. If the person on whom we are dependent for our feelings of security begins to show attention to others, we tend to fear that we may lose him or her and thus our security. Such fear and jealousy is common when we are children and often continues in relationship our close friends.
2. Another reason we fear our loved one’s giving attention to others is that we are programmed to believe that we then lose our self worth. The reasoning is that we believe we are worthy of love when there is at least one person in this world who loves only us. We feel worthy and important because this person sees us as special and loves only us. If suddenly he or she also loves someone else, we feel intimidated.
Another factor and example is a man feels that he loses his manliness if a woman leaves him for another. Most women believe they lose their self worth if their partner shows interest in another woman.
3. Another powerful attractive force in the formation of relationships is the need for affection and physical and or sexual contact. This need for contact, intimacy with another being exits on many levels: biological, emotional, mental, spiritual, and for the balancing. Thus we seek someone with whom we can share our affection, intimacy and energy.
4. Another reason we form relationships is to recreate familiar emotional exchanges that we experienced as children. We are often subconsciously attracted to someone who will sooner or later behave like one of our parents. We complain that we escaped from this negative behavior in our parents and now we find the same behavior in our partners. This has to do with our subconscious need as adults to learn the lessons involved in confronting such behavior.
It would be best not to complain about this situation, but rather to ask, what is life trying to teach me here? What do I need to learn so that I can transform this negativity into a conscious love?
5. Less frequently today than in the past, some still may also choose a spouse who is socially superior in order to gain prestige and power through this connection. Social dictates can sometimes be a motivating force in marriage. This is especially true in some countries of the world where women are submitted to great pressure to marry before they reach a certain age, such country Ghana specifically west Africa and Africa as a whole.

Thank you for reading

By Larbi Pope Williams

HOW IMPORTANT FIGHTING IS IN RELATIONSHIP. ( MR POPE )

Respect is the defining variable. As long as partners respect each other,fighting in and of itself is not a threat to the relationship. If you are afraid of conflict and strong negative emotions, then your relationship can’t go far and below are my Intel or secret about how important fighting is in relationship.( My secret)

Fighting in relational world strengthens the relationship by increasing trust,confidence, commitment and happiness. Many don’t think fighting in relationship is a good sign,sometimes when argument happens and occurred, it makes both partner realise how important you value things and knows much when entering or taking the next step in life,perhaps marriage. Fighting makes it easier to know each person vulnerable or weakest side. In our relational world, we ought to understand that everything happen for a reason,and you might not know if it can lead you to somewhere.

Another fact that makes fighting in relationship good is,it makes you will feel better, many out there will not understand the betterment of this whole deal in relationship but fighting in relationships is good and you feel ease. Feeling better in sense of realising both mistakes and making an amendment. After they fought, both partner become furious and will be quiet for a few hours or less.

They feel better for long nagging, argument and abusive words from each other and to crown it all; feeling normal.

I love this thought because it helps me whenever i’m fighting, nagging and making unnecessary complains with my FIANCÉE. My thought is, your partner will know your thoughts, feelings and opinions. Is very true in relational world, many relationship personnel’s have been fighting, arguing and insulting each other due to lack of feelings, thoughts and opinions. Everyone has a point and to make the relationship worked, but the other partner has different perspective of thought and opinions in mind. Fighting will helped unravel such opinions. And in clear state the partner will now be aware of the crisis in the relationship and settle their problems amicably henceforth. So fighting is a good sign in relationship, because no relationship is problem FREE.

Intimacy increasing is one major act or play which happen when both partner’s in relationship quarrel and fight. When a relationship lack intimacy it makes it stagnant and unhealthy for both to live in. I assure you that many relationship are falling or draining along due to non chemistry intimacy and fighting along will make things worse. When you fight or quarrel in relationship, it makes the word intimate mature and both partner link together.

Your partner is a separate individual, Improves your character and It is human you can stop trying to be PERFECT, AND NO PROBLEM FREE IN RELATIONSHIP.

I hope I have demonstrated that fighting is a useful function for healthy relationships. When done skillfully, an opportunity for a greater understanding and love for your partner is possible. Talking about it is easy, Doing is difficult, #Blessings

Larbi Pope Williams

(Relationship Therapist)