Relationship And Dating Career has become norm in our modern society and the world at large. WHY SECRET KILL RELATIONSHIPS? It has become normal for lies to be part in relational world and is destroying relationships and marriages. What can we do to adjust the situation? Deep secrets need not hinge on external events. Hopes and dreams that people don’t dare speak aloud are also secrets in relationships. Many times a self-assessment is someone’s deepest secret and is true. The assessment is lower than they let on, he explains, and their anxieties are higher than they let you know.
Even undisclosed information, they can harm us and those around us call partners. We need to internally acknowledge our secrets to be true to ourselves, but they can make us feel inauthentic if they too deeply challenge our identity. We’ve evolved to learn to keep secrets, as children who must become independent adults and as adults who must navigate a complex society. We’ve also evolved to keep things from ourselves. The deepest secrets are the ones we don’t directly acknowledge even in our own diaries. The more a secret occupies your mind, the stronger its negative effect. And people are dying inside due to this thing.
What I’ve come to realise is that, being vulnerable and honest about all aspects of your life is an act of COURAGE. Some people believe they need to keep secrets or lie to survive in a relationship. You are making big mistake. They lack confidence in their ability to confront unpleasant topics, such as money troubles, or issues related to past or present errors in judgement or mistakes. However, finding healthy ways to honestly express yourself to your partner is the best way to build a trusting relationship that endures the test of time.
But is lying by omission or keeping a secret the same as betrayal? In my opinion, you want to consider how your partner would view your secret if they found out and you neglected to tell them about it. Also, if you feel guilty or uneasy about not disclosing information to them, it’s a red flag that you need to do so. Highlight all the hidden motive and agenda to avoid trouble in nearby future.
Experts agree that TRUST can be easily broken and hard to repair. When your partner withholds important information from you regardless of their reasons, it’s normal to feel betrayed. For many people, any form of deceit can be a deal breaker. Secret kills relationship and it destroyed what you both had worked for so many years. In some occasions, lying or keeping a secret from your partner maybe good thing to do. Not all secret kills relationship, but what it contained is the key problem. The truth hurt when spoken out loudly to you, but once you find out you can be able cope with it than the best dressed lie. Attend to your partner’s need and utilised time to care for him or her. I would encourage you all not keep secret from your partner, spouse etc unless or if necessary.
Larbi Pope Williams.🇬🇭